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SPCH SALUTES
     When someone comes to our attention who has exemplefied a spirit of kindness, respect, and compassion in difficult circumstances or unusual ways, we like to recognize them for it. Selection of such individuals is the sole perogative of the Directors of SPCH. We welcome your nominations.
 
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November 12, 2009 
Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Humans
hereby salutes
Donna DuBois
 for kindness, compassion, and creativity in working with children.
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  Donna DuBois was a high school senior, planning a career as a computer systems analyst, when she got a chance to help a preschool across the street from the school.  The lesson for the day was simple arithmetic, but the children weren't catching on. DuBois instinctively knelt near one girl and had her hold up one finger, then another. "One and one," she said, grasping each finger separately, "and now you have two."  The girl's face lit up as she said, "I get it!"  "That," recalls DuBois, "was a defining moment of my life when I knew what I was going to do."
 
 The thrill that comes from connecting with children, then
getting them to master a new concept still provides the juice that drives the red-headed fourth-grade teacher at Eugene's Camas Ridge Community School, named October 27 as Oregon's new Teacher of the Year.

 DuBois (pronounced the French way, doo-bwa), an elementary school teacher for the past 11 years, was chosen for her exceptional ability to connect both with children and with fellow teachers.  She is a master at getting students of all abilities to stretch themselves, says Yvonne Curtis, new superintendent in Forest Grove who supervised DuBois in Eugene. 
 "Her students love her. She is so patient and kind. She gets kids to do (academically challenging) things for her without them realizing how far they're pushing," says Wally Bryant, principal of Camas Ridge.
 
Similarly, she has a gentle, respectful way with fellow teachers, Bryant says. She helps other teachers become better not by coming at them as an all-knowing smarty pants but by asking them questions, valuing their strengths and leading by example as a can-do, early-adopter of new ideas, he says. 
 
 DuBois says her approach to teaching is simple.  "The first key for me, is starting always, always, always with the relationship between the child and myself, and the family," she says.  "Once that trust is in place, it becomes much less difficult to meet a child where they are. They trust you enough to tell you what their interests are. They trust you enough to read to you when it's hard to read. Once you get to that relationship, teaching every child at his or her level and his or her point of interest comes naturally."
 
"In my class, there are all kinds of rules and expectations, but it all boils down to two words: be kind.  The teacher needs to be kind to the students. The students need to be kind to each other. And kids have to be kind to themselves."
 
She believes it is important for students, even in the early grades, to take responsibility for their own learning.  "They all want to bring their work to me. 'What do you think? What do you think?' Well, I want to know, what do they think?"
 
Her path to teaching was not what she expected. She married her high school sweetheart straight out of high school. His Air Force career took them to England, then Florida, then Utah. She raised their three children, squeezing in college as she could, finally earning her bachelor's in elementary education from Weber State University in time to become a first-year teacher at age 30.  She returned to her hometown of Eugene and began teaching there in 2000. 
 
The work warms her heart, she says. This week, she says, one boy in her class told her, "Miss D, I come to school every day, because I know that if I don't, you're going to miss me."
 
In her off time, she likes to paint watercolors, research geneology, travel and hang out with her three children, two of whom are still at home. 
 
Perhaps her greatest success at Camas Ridge came with a student in her third-grade class last year with behavior challenges. It took a long time to build a strong, trusting relationship, but once she did, his learning took off. When she considered whether to switch grade levels for this school year, her rapport with that boy sealed her decision.  She felt she needed to be his teacher again so he could continue on his strong trajectory. 
 
 And it's working, she says.  "He actually says, "You asked to
have me in your class again, didn't you?' That has meant the world to him. He knows we are there together." 
 
  Article by Betsy Hammond, The Oregonian
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October 9, 2009
Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Humans
hereby salutes
 Chip Kelly

 Head Coach of the University of Oregon Ducks football team for 
 compassionate and courageous actions under intense pressure.
 
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Sports is a venue where participants are supposed to act like--well, like good sports.  Opponents are to be treated as opponents and defeated if possible, but they are not enemies to be hated and hurt. Oh, if only politicians and business people and even neighbors could learn from sports.
 
But then, of course, sports can get brutal as well. That's why football, for example, has penalties for "unsportsmanlike conduct." It serves as a regular reminder that there are rules of  fair play and if you break the rules, it will hurt you.
 
To start the 2009 football season on the right note despite their intense rivalry, the University of Oregon Ducks and the Boise State Broncos took the unusual step of having all the players from both teams meet and shake hands on the field before the game. The Ducks then proceeded to suffer a humiliating loss, and afterward Duck star running back LeGarrette Blount responded to the taunt of a Boise player by punching him in the face.  Blount then had to be physically restrained from attacking fans as well.
 
The whole sorry episode played out on national TV, and I, though a Duck fan, was outraged when I saw it. Obviously, Blount needed to be punished. My reaction was, Arrest the man! He has committed a criminal assault.   
 
Oregon coach Chip Kelly, defeated in his very first game as Oregon head coach, now had this mess to deal with. Kelly soon announced that Blount was suspended for the rest of the season--a heavy penalty since it was Blount's senior year and his hopes for a professional football career rested on his season performance.
 
Coach Kelly was blasted by some for being too severe and costing Blount his career. Others heaped scorn on Kelly for keeping Blount in school on his athletic scholarship at all, and letting him practice with the team.  
 
I supported Kelly's decision. Better coaches genuinely care for their players, some of whom have a promising future only because of the opportunity sports provides them, not only to get an education but to mature and develop in character.  Blount had to be punished to teach him and other players what behavior is acceptable and what is not. But Blount did not need to be cast out as garbage.
 
Kelly summed up well in four words the reaction of both Blount and himself to the incident and its fall-out.  "He cried. I cried."  
 
Bad behavior hurts everyone involved. By tempering punishment with compassion, Coach Kelly created the opportunity for everyone involved to make the best of a bad situation. Only over time will we know whether LeGarrette Blount proves worthy of the kindness shown him. So far, he seems to have responded well to the corrective measures imposed on him.
 
 
 
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 September 22, 2009
Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Humans
hereby salutes
Mark DeMoss
and
Lanny Davis
 for putting aside their intense partisan differences to jointly organize
The Civility Project
 
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There has been so much rancor, anger, name-calling, and hostility in American politics recently that one wonders if we are headed for another civil war. At best, we seem to face gridlock in Congress. It's discouraging and dispiriting to those of us who have been pleading for less animosity and more civility in our relationships with one another.
 
But, hooray! Now, others are taking a stand on all this destructive meanness. These others are calling, as SPCH does, for respectful, decent behavior in the public square. This nurtures hope that the slide to disaster might be stemmed and common decency might be restored in politics and in the society at large.
 
For example, Charles Colson, in a September 16 BreakPoint article writes about an initiative called "The Civility Project," which was started by two men "who are about as far apart politically as it's possible to get. Mark DeMoss is the conservative president of the DeMoss Group. Lanny Davis is a former advisor to Bill and Hillary Clinton."
 
The Civility Project asks all of us to pledge three things:
1.   I will be civil in my public discourse and behavior.
2.  I will be respectful of others whether or not I agree with them.
3.  I  will stand against incivility when I see it.
 
Of this Civility Project, Colson writes "Three cheers for them! Too many Americans think that it's OK to simply shout down their opponents
, malign their motives, or, when all else fails, make vicious personal attacks . . . .  But civility is a precondition for democratic dialogue. And civility is mandatory for Christians; Jesus told us to love our enemies, which would exclude us from making vicious verbal attacks against them."

 

SPCH hereby uges readers to go to The Civility Project  site and sign the pledge: